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When my 11-year-old and I went to the videogame store to buy the new Call of Duty: Modern Warfare 2 game on the day it was released publicly, the cashier asked me if I knew about the level in the game in which players looking down the barrel of an automatic weapon calmly walk through a shopping mall shooting as many unarmed shoppers as possible.  There is an easy way to eliminate that section, she explained, that leaves the rest of the game undisturbed.

Walking out to the car, I thought it through and settled on an approach that is consistent with my wife and my parenting style.  (more…)

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The New York Times Sunday magazine last week published this piece on the importance of teaching kids self-control. Self-control, according to the article, is regarded by some scholars as a better predictor of success in early school age kids than aptitude in academic subjects.  I have my own story about self-control in an area where kids are notoriously weak: playing videogames. (more…)

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Here’s a good piece from Slate.com by Alan E. Kazdin and Carlo Rotella that asks the question:

If you are a good parent who is patient, explains things to your kids, sets good examples, uses a system of rewards and punishments to teach your children and they refuse to learn and actively resist, then what do you do? (more…)

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I have come up short as a father on any number of occasions.  I once put my bare-footed three-year-old daughter in the snow on a cold, winter night because she repeatedly stripped off the socks I had put on her.   Another time, I slammed down a spaghetti bowl and screamed at my two-year-old when he couldn’t get him to eat.   I am not proud of these moments.  But the end of the day, I believe that so much of parenting is a series of judgement calls, and that mistakes are inevitable.  Frustration, anger, overrreactions, moments of weakness, and the occasional contest of wills between a grown adult and a 3 year old produce situations with a surprisingly fine line between good parenting and outright cruelty(more…)

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I was laid off several months ago and am now a stay-at-home Daddy for my four young kids.  When I go to the mall or a public playground during business hours on a week day, I feel self-conscious about my non working status.  With unemployment creeping into double digits in many places, I know that I am not alone in my embarrassment.  In my neighborhood, I have been seeing an increasing number of other Daddy’s minding the kids while the rest of the world is punching the clock.

I see Dads like me walking with their heads slightly down as if they are ashamed to look up and acknowledge their plight.  I take these lowered gazes as a sign that perhaps being a stay-at-home parent compounds rather than relieves the unemployment blues.  What I want my fellow Dads to realize that being home with kids is a rare gift whose main beneficiaries are not only your grateful children but you as well.  Afterall, one of the most important keys to getting back in the workforce is the ability to remain positive.  Exercising a direct hand in your child’s development — be it athletic, academic or otherwise– is the greatest source of parental pride and positivity.  So I am dedicating this humble blog to those fathers who might be slow to embrace their new role but who want to achieve greatness in the important field of Parenting before that job offer comes along and messes up their hard-won mojo.

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